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Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Needy

I came to an unpleasant realization about myself today...
Sometimes I can become a very needy person.
I think this has been one of the biggest strains on a few of my closest friendships. Sometimes when I have been given access to someone's life, I start taking that for granted and acting as though they owe me their time and/or attention. This usually happens sort of subtly over time so instead of recognizing that I'm growing "needy" I gradually get frustrated with the person when they don't meet my expectations, and in most cases I eventually approach them about it as though they are shirking some sort of responsibility.

Gimme, Gimme, Gimme, I need, I need, I need!!!
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It's neurotic, really. Like Bill Murray's character in "What About Bob?" Even if it's hilarious on screen, it's not in real life. No one wants to be around needy people. They're exhausting. And that's not the kind of person I want to be for the people I care about.

I'm praying I will let God teach me to ENJOY and SUPPORT people without growing NEEDY toward them. He reminded me today of Philippians 4:19 ~ "And my GOD will supply all your NEEDS according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus." HE is Who I need to look to when I'm feeling needy.

It's never fun to discover ugly truths about myself, but it's better than going on in oblivion. Now I can do something about it. I'm thankful for that.

2 comments:

Carrie said...

Kaysi - I went through a period of time when I was extremely needy of Peter's attention. Not that wanting your husband to support and encourage you is a bad thing, but I realized one day that I was looking to him to fill that Need Gap instead of looking to the only One who could actually fill it - the Lord. Talk about a smack on the head moment, eh?! Once I allowed God to start working on me in that area, my relationship with Peter got even better and I realized that he was already providing what I needed from him.

I'll be praying for you as you grow in this area - thanks for being so transparent! Sometimes the persona that is put out there on blogs and in life is that people have it all together (when the reality is that no one has it all together - we're all works in progress). :-)

Blessings!

Kaysi said...

Thanks for the encouragement, Carrie, not only in your kind words to me but also in your personal testimony of God's work in YOUR life when you recognized your own weakness in this area!! If He can change you, maybe He can change me, too, right?? =) Thanks for your prayers and for your friendship!!